Why do people think I'm on crack for reading information on babies?

Your husband and your mother in law? Yes, they do have a coalition against you. From all of your questions, it is obvious that you married a momma's boy who is always going to disrespect you whenever his mother disagrees with you, and his mother is always going to make your life hard, because she intends to stay the number one woman in her son's life. Honestly, I think that if you can't convince your husband to get some family therapy with you, you need to leave him. Generally, I'm the last person who suggests divorce as a solution to family problems, but what these people are doing to you is systematic emotional abuse. You can't just keep living like that.